Monday, June 27, 2011

Crying because of Cry It Out

After nine blissful months of Anna sleeping for 12 hours and going down without a fuss the 10 month has brought with it screams and wails and waking up in the middle of the night between 3 and 5 am. We never really had to deal with this problem. As an infant she'd go to bed and "sing" and "talk" herself to sleep. She was a great sleeper. I could go into her room after she was asleep, turn on the light and hang up her clothes or get things ready for the next day. Now, she wants to be rocked to sleep and cries when we leave. No more soothing baby babble putting herself to sleep.




So, with this change I have been reading books and internet articles from everyone from doctors to parents to nannies to grandparents and it's clear that everyone has an opinion and everyone believes they are right in either the Cry It Out Method or the Soothing Method (aka giving in to the CIO followers) At Anna's age, 10 months, she now knows that she is alone and she is only crying because she is scared and wants to be with us. I am unable to listen to her cry not because I want to sleep but because I know all she wants is her mommy and her daddy. That's it.



Babies only cry when they need something and if after I change her and see if she is hungry she is still crying then she needs me. I'm going to give into that. I am going to be firm in other areas of REAL discipline issues but I feel like sleeping is not a place to try to discipline your child. If we did try the CIO method I think that she will eventually cry herself to sleep and maybe she'll stop crying over the next few nights but she cannot possible understand why i'm letting her cry herself to sleep. I just can't do that.



She falls asleep in her own bed and wakes up anywhere between 3 am and 5 am. if at that time after I change her, feed her (if needed but that's not what she wants at this point) and i try to soothe her back to sleep in her own bed and she is still screaming I am going to continue to hold her and if it means brining her to bed with me then that is what it means. I do hope that she goes back to her good sleep routine but if she doesn't I honestly feel that I would "ruin" her by letting her scream herself to sleep more than letting her come to bed with her mommy and daddy.



It is so difficult being a parent and thinking am I doing this right? Am I doing this wrong? ANd, it's so easy to beat yourself up over every little thing. the one thing about research is that any research can be done to find any one answer, at least i think so. I do not ever put 100% in any type of research but i do look to it for some guidence and to see what trusted resources say. one article I found by dr. sears is this and I found this to be helpful in mkaing me feel better about our decision to not let anna cry it out

http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/fussy-baby/science-says-excessive-crying-could-be-harmful

i do think ther eis a huge difference between letting her cry for a monute or two right when she is going down for bed compared to her screaming and hurting cry in the middle of the night. we don't have a problem letting her cry a little to get to sleep but when she wakes up and is scared and is trusting in us to console her and make her feel secure and loved is totally different. so, that's where we are right now...at 10 months, finally dealing with some sleeping issues. she is just too precious to let cry over going to sleep but she will understand when momma and daddy mean business in other areas of true discipline. :) lol.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Father's Day

what a wonderful father's day. we had our 10 year high school reunion on friday night and it was fun seeing everyone. anna stayed with my parents like she loves to do. my sister and her family were in town so she got to spend some good quality time with her cousins. we spent saturday around the house hanging out and saturday went to our friends house. it was fun having our babies together and anna and her friend elizabeth had a little "mini sleepover" in caleb's room and went down in their pack and plays. It was cute.


Sunday was Father's Day and was again a pretty lazy day. We didn't make it to church like we've been doing but we went over to my parent's house for a while and hung out then came home. Blake and his brother have been working on an "invention" so he went up to the office for a while and did that while Anna napped. We already got him his father's day gift a few weeks back. he has been wanting a bible because him and my dad are doing a bible study together and so me, anna and him went to the bookstore and anna was very verbal that day and told us which one she liked. her and her daddy picked out a great one. we got his name put on it and so that was his gift from his girls.

i can't tell you how greatful i am for a man like him in my life. i'm glad he chose me. my dad always says, "I like Blake. He likes Holly for the same reasons I do." but, my dad is very proud that Blake is able to say no to me. LOL! He does and I listen. Not without argument. ;) But, he has such a way with me that honestly no one else ever has. Anna is one lucky little lady to have such a wonderful daddy. Blake's love for her is so amazing to watch. He is so calm with her when she's upset and has such a way with her. They already have such a wonderful bond but I'm excited to see that as the years go on.

My sister and I were driving through the Chick-Fil-A drive through the other night and there was a sign that said "Father Daughter Night" and I got so excited and said, "Oh, I have to tell Blake to bring Anna!!" She giggled. I guess it is silly. Anna is only 10 months old. But, she is eating big people food now and Blake loves Chick-Fil-A. So, maybe they should go. Anna is going to cherish those times and on this Father's Day, it being Blake's first, it was a special little day. I know that I am a Daddy's Girl...although I love my mom tremendously as well and nothing can compare to either relationship.It's funny though because I know some women, from stories they've told and shared, that had some sort of animosity towards their mothers. One lady said her and her dad used to have "coffee" in the morning and when her mom would walk in she'd say in her mind, "We don't need you here." WOW! Weird. LOL! Each parent relationship is so different and special. May with Mother's Day adn June with Father's Day is a fun time for any parent but it's been a special "Spring" (Do we get one here in south texas?!) for us both.

Neither one of us want Anna to grow up fast but we can't wait for all the years that are ahead. She is such a fun little thing and getting all sorts of personality. We love sharing in moments with her and seeing her grow. There's an old Scottish saying, "A son is a son until he takes a wife but a daughter is a daughter for life." You can see how boys grow up, leave the nest and make thier own little family. The woman still keeps all the ties together. Getting the husband to his family events and getting her family to her family events, etc... I am thankful our first was a girl for many reasons but I am excited to be her friend - however, I am goign to be a parent first!!! I'm not going to try to be the cool parent - discipline first!!! ;) But, I'm excited to see her grow and learn and one day, not too soon though!!!! make a little family of her own.

A cute little song Blake has been singining to Anna is Stevie Wonder's "Isn't She Lovely" well, we always stop at one part because we can't remember the words so much after it so I looked up the lyrics and it's about a dad singing about his daughter and talking to his wife about what they made. I almost cried. So, this Father's Day this song dedication goes out to Blake and Anna. ;)


"Isn't She Lovely"



Isn't she lovely
Isn't she wonderful
Isn't she precious
Less than one minute old
I never thought through love we'd be
Making one as lovely as she
But isn't she lovely made from love

Isn't she pretty
Truly the angel's best
Boy, I'm so happy
We have been heaven blessed
I can't believe what God has done
Through us he's given life to one
But isn't she lovely made from love

Isn't she lovely
Life and love are the same
Life is Anna
The meaning of her name
Holly, it could have not been done
Without you who conceived the one
That's so very lovely made from love


Saturday, June 4, 2011

9 month Update

Anna had her 9 month check- up the 23rd of May and is doing so well. She weighed 17 lbs 4 ounces, is now 27 inches which seems so short except for when I think wow, she's 2 feet 3 inches tall!!! It's so different than just saying inches. :) They got her head measurement but I forgot that. But, she's in the 25th percentile straight across the board. I know before I was a mom I was always thinking, "what does that mean?" but it simple means that she is bigger than 25% of kids her age and smaller than 75% of the other kids her age. All based on national data of her age group. The doctor is pleased with her growth from where she started and she's consistent on that same little growth curve. Good job Anna! ;)

At her 9 month appointment time she was only army crawling. She is now crawling like a pro and pulling up on things to stand. It's freaking me out and as much as I am excited I also want to put a brick on her head and keep her little. It's exciting and heart-breaking at the same time because as she learns each new skill it's further away from being a baby and closer to being a little girl. Oh my goodness. My baby is growing up tooooo fast. I now understand why everyone, over and over, say, "Enjoy every second; time flies." I think when you have a child and you are waiting for every "new" thing and milestone it puts your clock and time into over-drive.

We got her ears pierced as well!! :) I have been wanting to, Blake has not but as everyone always tells me I always get my way. :) No, at first I was like, "OH MY GOSH!!!!!! Why have I done this to her!" But, then and now I love it. :)


Here's a pic where you can see her precious earrings! ;)



Precious big little girl! Eating puffs and drinking from a sippy!

I had to put this on here so you can see what her eyes used to be like daily and now in these other pictures how clear and beautiful they are!! I'm so glad we had her eye procedure done. It's such a huge increase to her quality of life not having us hold her down to clean off her terrible eyes!

Mother's Day 2011

Mother's Day 2011


So, for some sad news...sorry. Lately it's been pretty crazy in our little lives and family. We found out about a month ago that my mom has stage three lung cancer and it's moved to her lymph nodes. It was a complete shock to me because when they started the tests and scans and everything they initially said it wasn't and didn't look to be cancer but then she went to another follow up and we found out it was. I didn't even call her that evening to chek on how her appointment went because I honestly thought that it would be another negative test result and everything was fine, that they just did the follow up to be safe. But, we are trusting in the Lord and know that He knows the plans He has for us and that is to prosper and bless us. Through this our lives will be changed and how you deal with a situation like this is the most important. She started chemo this Friday and is still feeling well. They told her the third day would be when it would hit her and she'd be tired and her bones would hurt from the shot she got the day after chemo to help rebuild and keep her bone marrow growing and not be effected by the chemo. I'm praying she is one of those lucky few who is never negatively affected by the chemo. Prayers are so appreciated and we know that God heals.

My sister Laura, Aunt Lala, and Anna Kate

So, watching our baby girl grow into a little lady, helping and being with my mom and there for one another, work, school, and life in general has been crazy and busy and full of many blessings and challenges.
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